Like I said in my post Nap Baby Nap, I have followed a flexible parent-directed feeding (PDF) schedule from the moment my little guy was born. This idea comes from one of the many books I read while pregnant called On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the GIFT of Nighttime Sleep. According to authors Gary Ezzo, M.A. and Robert Bucknam, M.D., "a baby cannot maximize learning without experiencing optimal sleep. Optimal sleep is tied to good naps and established nighttime sleep. These advanced levels of sleep are the end result of consistent feedings. Consistent feedings come from establishing a healthy routine. PDF is the pebble that creates the ripple effect leading to all these outcomes."
With lots to juggle on most days around here and wanting to give my baby a great foundation for healthy growth and optimal development, I knew this type of routine would work best for me and was hopeful that my baby would catch on quickly, which he did! Like clock work, I could anticipate his needs before they arose.
With lots to juggle on most days around here and wanting to give my baby a great foundation for healthy growth and optimal development, I knew this type of routine would work best for me and was hopeful that my baby would catch on quickly, which he did! Like clock work, I could anticipate his needs before they arose.
If you have read Baby Wise but are having trouble remembering the details, this post is for you. Or possibly you have the book but don't have time to read it and before you know it, your bundle of joy will be making his/her debut! While I highly recommend that you read or at least skim through the book (It has TONS of great advice and way more details that I can post here.), I've made it easy for you by sharing our schedule! Just click here to download...and print, if you choose. PS - There is a boy version and a girl version, same schedule just different colors. :)
It may seem overwhelming at first, but stay calm. Take it one day and one week at a time. Give yourself time to get to know your baby and your baby to get to know you. Do what seems right for you, your baby, and your family.
Some notes:
Yes, following this schedule, you will have to wake your baby in the beginning during the day if it's time to feed him but he is sleeping. This helps to stabilize the baby's digestive metabolism and helps him organize his sleep patterns into a predictable routine...naps during the day, sleep at night. Let baby wake naturally at night, but don't let baby sleep more than 4 hours without feeding during the first 4 weeks. Following this schedule, your baby should be ready to sleep 5 hours at night at 5 weeks old, 7 hours at night at 7 weeks old, and so on until he is sleeping 11 hours at night.The goal is to transition through Merge 4 after solids are introduced. Before then breast milk or formula is all your baby needs for his daily nutrition. Check out the book Baby Wise II for more information on starting solids. We were on the 6 liquid feedings a day for a long time until my little guy started solids (beginning with baby rice cereal/baby oatmeal) around 22 weeks, but even then he wasn't quite ready to drop a liquid feeding. For a few weeks, we worked on dropping a liquid feeding once he got used to the solids. Breastfeeding moms should maintain at least 4-5 nursing sessions in a 24 hour period to keep their supply up.
Please note that your baby has to be ready and capable for the merge/transition. Some babies are ready sooner or later than others. Don't force them to drop a feeding if they aren't ready. Obviously, if your baby is showing hunger signs, you should feed him. He may be going through a growth spurt or extra thirsty at that time.
I say flexible schedule because as much as I tried to stay on track with the set times, the feedings would give or take 30 minutes on most days. Following PDF is a combination of watching for hunger cues and the progression of time, so if your baby is showing hunger cues a little early than scheduled, feed him. Or if you just got home from an errand, need to put the groceries away and he isn't showing hunger cues, he can wait a little bit.
Remember, not every day will be perfect and it doesn't have to be. Just enjoy your time with your baby. It may not seem like it at first, but it will go by fast.
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In addition to having our schedule print-out handy all the time, I used this adorable Baby Diary for the first month or so. Then after the first month, I switched to a Note I created on my iPhone. I know there are some different smartphone apps out there for keeping track of feedings, diaper changes, etc. but I liked my simple Note better. Here is a sample from the schedule we were on from around 11 weeks and continued until about 25 weeks when he got used to some solids (baby rice cereal and oatmeal) and transitioned through Merge 4 and 5.
The template stayed the same, but here is what I would change on the Note throughout each day:
- Since I'm nursing and it's best to start on the side you ended on, I kept track at the top by changing the L or the R so I knew which side to start on for the next feeding. You might think I'm crazy but with mommy brain in full swing, it helped me to keep track.
- I would add the actual time I fed him and adjust the schedule accordingly if it happened to be earlier or later.
- I would also keep track of his naps trying to make sure he got between 3-4 hours of good sleep during the day.
- Try not to have your baby nap between the last two feedings. This could cause him to not sleep well at night.
- 11 hours sleep at night! Woohoo! Now, if I would just get to bed before 11:00pm, we'd all be well-rested!
I hope this is all helpful to you. You don't have to follow a schedule to be a great mom. These are just some of the tools I used to make life easier for us.
